Enjoying Natural Pleasures

I committed to this 30 day challenge, so I’m blogging today. But because I’m on a vacation with my hubby, I’m keeping this one short. We’re in beautiful Ojai and right now instead of blogging, I’m going to go sit out in the glorious veranda and look up at the stars. Outside of the bright lights of Los Angeles, the Milky Way is glowing above us in a miraculously bright display. It’s calling my name, and I’m heeding its call.

Before I go, I want to challenge you to go find some nature to appreciate as well. Literally go smell the roses, enjoy the night sky, or take off your shoes and feel the grass under your feet. Connect with the simple natural pleasures of the world around you. It will ground you and bring perspective to anything you are facing in your life.

[30 Day Blogging Challenge - Day 8]

Monick P. Halm, Esq. is the founder of Equilawbrium Career & Life Coaching. As a coach, law of attraction student, Reiki Master, and former lawyer, Monick inspires and supports lawyers and other professionals in crafting their careers and lives so that they are ones of balance, passion, and joy.

Tending To Your Relationship

“A relationship is like a delicate rose bush. If you care for it, it will bloom year after year with unsurpassed beauty. If you don't, you might end up with a dull, lifeless entity that is struggling to survive.”
~ Rinatta Paries

Every relationship, no matter how strong, needs loving attention to help it flourish. This is something I’ve been thinking a lot about lately. Tomorrow my husband and I are going on a romantic little getaway to Ojai. We’re leaving our toddler with my sister and just taking two days and one night away. I adore my husband beyond words. We truly have a legendary love affair. However, because we both work from home and spend so much time together, it can be easy sometimes to take one another for granted. I felt like we needed a change of scene and some quality alone time to help spruce things up. So we planned this rather impromptu trip. I can’t wait! I know that it’s these little trips and date nights that are essential to keep things fresh and loving.

Tender loving care of relationships is not just for your relationship with your significant other. All special relationships -- from your kids to your close friends and everyone in between -- could use some occasional tending. Do you have some relationships that could use some loving attention? If so, plan one thing today to show that person you care!

[30 Day Blogging Challenge - Day 7]

Monick P. Halm, Esq. is the founder of Equilawbrium Career & Life Coaching. As a coach, law of attraction student, Reiki Master, and former lawyer, Monick inspires and supports lawyers and other professionals in crafting their careers and lives so that they are ones of balance, passion, and joy.

Where is Your Edge?

Come to the Edge ~ by Guillaume Apollinaire

Come to the edge, he said.

They said: We are afraid.

Come to the edge, he said.

They came.

He pushed them and they flew.

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There is a whisper inside that is calling you to an edge. There is a whisper that is pushing you towards a scary abyss. Where is your edge? Are you willing to listen to the call?

I recently read a quote by an unknown author: “It is far more powerful to live your truth than to preach it.” I’m being pushed towards my edge to create a powerful workshop. I just created another one recently (which was its own edge at the time), but this cliff seems a lot scarier. The workshop is based off of a book I wrote a few months ago. It’s a little terrifying to put this information out in the world because it’s all my creation. What if I take the leap and fall flat on my face? Yikes! So, little by little I’m crawling to the edge. I’m shoring up my confidence and making sure I have done all the necessary preparations. Just putting this blog post out there is getting me closer. Whee! I’ll tell you more as I get ready to jump.

[30 Day Blogging Challenge - Day 6]

Monick P. Halm, Esq. is the founder of Equilawbrium Career & Life Coaching. As a coach, law of attraction student, Reiki Master, and former lawyer, Monick inspires and supports lawyers and other professionals in crafting their careers and lives so that they are ones of balance, passion, and joy.

5 Ways to Amp Up Your Mojo

“Mojo: The libido, the life force, the essence, the right stuff, what the French call a certain ... ‘I don’t know what’” ~Dr Evil in Austin Powers: The Spy Who Shagged Me

“Mojo” refers to your self-confidence, self-esteem, self-efficacy, or even sex appeal. If you’re feeling like your mojo could use a boost, here are five simple ways to amp up your mojo:

1. Make a list of what’s mojolicious about you right now. “Mojolicious” means the things about you that are deliciously sublime and wonderful. People who have mojo are confident -- they know why they are the cat’s meow. So the first thing to do to amp up your mojo is to know why you are fantastic... why you are mojolicious. So start detailing your positive attributes (e.g., your dashing smile, sterling sense of humor, cute buns, brilliance, creativity). This will automatically start to boost your self-confidence and your mojo. If you want a super boost, ask some people that are close to you (at least one, but as many as you are willing to ask) what they think is special and wonderful about you. When they tell you write it down on your mojolicious list (without editions), and don’t discount what they say or try to be humble. Mojo is not about humility. Just take it in and say “Thank you, it’s true.”
2. Do something outrageous and daring. Nothing boosts your mojo like flexing your courage muscles. Whether it’s sky diving or asking out that hottie at work you’ve been secretly eyeing for 2 years, moving out of your comfort zone will definitely amp up your mojo.
3. Look your best. Wear flattering clothes, get your hair done, do your nails, etc. When you look your best you feel your best, and that’s what having mojo is all about.
4. Flirt. Flirtation is putting favorable attention and appreciation on someone else. You can also think of it as using your communication skills with a twist of fun, frolic, jesting, merriment, jocularity, and mirth. It does not have to be about attracting a mate; it can just be about connecting to that most fun-loving and attractive person inside of you (this is important even when you already have a significant other). If you're married or in a committed relationship, flirt with your significant other. You can also flirt with others, but I suggest you flirt lightly or in situations where your flirtations will not be ambiguous &/or taken the wrong way. Or as E.W. Howe counsels “To avoid mistakes and regrets, always consult your [partner] before engaging in a flirtation.” If you're single and looking to attract that special person, flirt with everyone you can. Do not flirt to get anything, just flirt to enjoy yourself. It's fun and it will surely boost your mojo.
5. Get in tune with your body and it’s natural sex appeal. Slow down and saunter while you walk. Stand up straighter. Feel your curves. Swing your hips. Get in tune with the rhythms of your body. Move like the sexiest creature you can imagine -- whether that’s a jaguar or a pole dancer. If you move it, you’ll feel it.

[30 Day Blogging Challenge - Day 5]

Monick P. Halm, Esq. is the founder of Equilawbrium Career & Life Coaching. As a coach, law of attraction student, Reiki Master, and former lawyer, Monick inspires and supports lawyers and other professionals in crafting their careers and lives so that they are ones of balance, passion, and joy.

Are You Living On Purpose?

This week in my Life Alchemy Workshop we’re focusing on the part of our lives dealing with career and life path/life mission. This section deals with the way we bring our talents and gifts to the world. When things are going well in this section, you’ll feel like your natural talents and gifts are fully being made use of and in a way that perfectly complements your values. You'll feel like you're living on purpose. When you have this type of alignment in your career, anything you do for work will be a joy. Your life path, however, is not just about what you do in your career.

When you look at the feng shui bagua map, you’ll notice that the career/life path section (bottom center) is different from the section dealing with wealth and prosperity (top left). They’re definitely related, but they’re not one and the same.

When you think about this distinction, it makes sense. For many people, including myself, parenting is part of their life path/life mission. It is not generally a way of bringing in income. Quite the reverse actually. Conversely, you can have a job that is rather lucrative, but does not make good use of your gifts and talents. I felt this way about law practice. I was very well remunerated, but I felt like the job was sucking my soul. It made use of a few of my gifts and talents, but not enough of them and not enough of the time. The rest of the time, I had to do tasks that were not a comfortable fit. I felt like a fish out of water. Now, in comparison, I feel like virtually every thing I do is in line with my talents, gifts, and values. My current work feels like the perfect pool for me.

Transitioning to this line of work did not magically happen for me. I spent a lot of time exploring my gifts, talents, and values. I created a personal mission statement, and made a commitment to live by that statement. I invested in coaching and classes to help me stay the course. It took faith in myself and a higher power, a lot of baby steps, and some patience. But it did happened. Some aspects of my mission statement are still aspirational, but I continue to take daily steps in the direction.

If you are feeling like you are not quite living your purpose and you may not be on the right path, I suggest that you first put together a personal mission statement. A personal mission is a statement of your core values and highest goals. A useful mission statement should include two pieces: what you wish to accomplish and contribute, and who you want to be - the character strengths and qualities you wish to develop. If you’d like some guidance, check out this website for a free personal mission statement wizard.

[30 Day Blogging Challenge - Day 4]

Monick P. Halm, Esq. is the founder of Equilawbrium Career & Life Coaching. As a coach, law of attraction student, Reiki Master, and former lawyer, Monick inspires and supports lawyers and other professionals in crafting their careers and lives so that they are ones of balance, passion, and joy.

What Stories Will They Tell About You?

"Live in such a way that you would not be ashamed to sell your parrot to the town gossip." –Will Rogers

I agree with the above quote, but would add “live in such a way that you would not be ashamed to sell your parrot to the town gossip, because you know that she’s going to have some great stories to tell.” Live your life so that you give them something to talk about. Make your life an epic and interesting tale.

Maybe my addition to the above quote is redundant. I’d be embarrassed if all my parrot had to talk about was what I was watching on television. I want my parrot to have some really great stories to share. Don’t you? I want my parrot to talk about a life of passion, love, adventure, intrigue, success, compassion, and courage. If your proverbial parrot were given away today, what kind of stories would it squawk about? Are you living the kind of life you want the town to talk about? If not, think about what story you do want to live. What would you want your biographers to say? When you figure it out start living so that your parrot will be evidence of a interesting life lived fully and completely.

[30 Day Blogging Challenge - Day 3]

Monick P. Halm, Esq. is the founder of Equilawbrium Career & Life Coaching. As a coach, law of attraction student, Reiki Master, and former lawyer, Monick inspires and supports lawyers and other professionals in crafting their careers and lives so that they are ones of balance, passion, and joy.

A Message from the Universe

Every weekday in my e-mail inbox I receive Notes from the Universe. They’re these amusing and inspirational little messages written by Mike Dooley, aka “The Universe.” Today’s message I thought was particularly great:

“If someone wants ‘A’ to happen, yet they prepare for ‘B,’ they will always get ‘B.’ Prepare for ‘A’ - The Universe.”

Many people prepare for the worst case scenario. I used to always hope for the best, but expect the worst. I figured that way, whatever I got wouldn’t be so disappointing. I wasn’t disappointed, but was creating less than ideal scenarios. Now I hope for the best, prepare for the best, and enjoy whatever I get anyway. It’s often even better than I thought.

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P.S. I’ve taken on a blogging challenge, so every day for the next 29 days (I blogged yesterday) I will be posting something. I hope you join me! Also, please let me know if you have any topics you’d like me to write about or any questions you’d like for me to answer.

Monick P. Halm, Esq. is the founder of the Reiki Coach and Equilawbrium Career & Life Coaching. As a coach, law of attraction student, Reiki Master, and former lawyer, Monick inspires and supports lawyers and other professionals in crafting their careers and lives so that they are ones of balance, passion, and joy.

Are you just moaning when you should be moving?

“If you have time to whine and complain about something then you have the time to do something about it.” ~Anthony J. D'Angelo, The College Blue Book

Les Brown tells this great story:

One afternoon a man walks past a house and sees a cute old couple rocking in their rocking chairs reading the paper. Lying in between them is a dog moaning as if its in pain. The man silently wonders what the dog is moaning about as he walks past.

The next afternoon the man walks past the same house. Again the couple is out there rocking in their chairs, sipping iced tea, and reading. Again the dog is lying in between them and moaning. The man is a bit worried about the dog, but he again passes and says nothing.

The third day the man makes a point of walking in front of the old couple’s house to check on the dog. He’s distressed to find the same scene - the old couple contentedly reading while the dog moans in pain. The young man feels compelled to say something.

“Excuse me” he calls out to the couple. “What’s wrong with your dog?”

“Oh him?” the old woman said, pointing the dog. “He’s just moaning because he is lying on a nail.”

The young man is confused. “If he’s lying on a nail and its so uncomfortable, why doesn’t he just get up and move?”

The little old lady smiled at him and said “Well honey, it hurts just enough for him to moan about it, but not enough for him to move yet.”

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Do you recognize yourself in that couple’s old dog? I know there have been times in my life when I’ve done my share of moaning when I should have been moving. Many people spend a lot of energy moaning about problems that they have the power to fix. Often the problems aren’t even that difficult to fix, but we get in the habit of moaning and forget that we could just move. We think that moaning/whining/complaining is going to make it better -- maybe if we moan long and loud enough someone will come and move the nail for us or carry us away. It almost never happens that way. Moaning just usually makes the nail seem that much more painful. So when you read this story, ask yourself: are you lying on a nail and just moaning about it? If so, stop moaning and start moving!

[30 Day Blogging Challenge: Day 1]

Monick P. Halm, Esq. is the founder of The Reiki Coach and Equilawbrium Career & Life Coaching. As a coach, law of attraction student, Reiki Master, and former lawyer, Monick inspires and supports lawyers and other professionals in crafting their careers and lives so that they are ones of balance, passion, and joy.